I found a page that puts doubt in anyone's mind if they've suffered abuse, basically by reading it most would say YES. Stating questions using gender-specific targeting pre-disposes society to believe that only MEN are abusers, not women and this is wrong, both have equal potential to be abusive. 

Physical Abuse

Does your partner:

• Hit, slap, punch, shove, bite, cut, strangle, kick, or burn you? Spit on you?
• Throw objects at you or restrain you?
• Threaten or hurt you with an object or deadly weapon (a gun, knife, baseball bat, brick, chain, hammer, scissors, rope, belt buckle, extension cord, branch, bottle, acid, bleach or scalding water)?
• Abandon you or lock you out of the house?
• Neglect you when you are sick or pregnant?
• Endanger you or your children through reckless driving?
• Threaten or attempt to drown you?

(ok, that behavior is without question abuse)

Emotional Abuse

Does your partner constantly say or do things that shame, embarrass, ridicule or insult you? Has he said:

• You're stupid, filthy, lazy, nasty, silly, etc.
• You're fat and ugly.
• You can't do anything right.
• You'll never get a job.
• You're an unfit mother.
• Who'd want you?

("Silly" ? ... you know how many people. friends, strangers I've heard say that to me?)

Does he:

• Withhold affection to punish you?
• Threaten to hurt you or your children?
• Tell you about his affairs or accuse you of having affairs?
• Forbid you to make decisions or socialize with your friends?
• Manipulate you with lies, contradictions or promises?

( "he"? why not say "They" implying that in truth both men and women are capable of Domestic Violence? my ex did all of them for a very long time, but nobody wants to talk about that.)

Economic Abuse

Does your partner:

Forbid you to work or handle your own money?

Force you to sign over property or give him your personal possessions?

Refuse to provide economically for you?

(What if you're a struggling family of 5, your partner wants to 'go out' or have an allowance and your family's finances don't support it without sacrificing rent, utilities and FOOD, this suggests, it doesn't matter. It's abuse not to give her money even when you can't)

Sexual Abuse

Does your partner:

• Force you to have sex when you don't want to or while sleeping?
• Force you to perform sexual acts you don't like?
• Criticize your sexual performance?
• Deny you sex?
• Not inform you of a Sexually Transmitted Disease he/she might have?
• Force you to have sex with or to watch others?
• Commit sexual acts that you consider sadistic?

(Deny sex, been there seen that it's also emotional abuse it makes you feel unloved, unattractive and that's CRUEL no matter how you look at it.)

Destructive Acts

Does your partner:

• Break furniture, flood rooms, ransack or dump garbage in your house?
• Slash tires, break windows, steal, tamper with parts or put foreign substances in the gas tank of your car?
• Kill pets to punish or frighten you?
• Destroy clothing, jewelry, family photos or other personal items that he knows are important to you?

( when I got out of Jail, I found my tires slashed, front wheel loosened causing me to wreck, I lost the only vehicle  I had. My apartment was ransacked (breaker on fridge was off so I came home to a full fridge full of ROTTEN food, my children's pictures GONE along with other personal items).